My hair is an indicator of my femininity and personality. It differenciates me from others and this is such a great feeling.
When I was a child my mother used to cut my hair short very frequently, which resulted in me growing up not knowing how to handle longer curly hair. As a direct consequence and as many girls did, I straightened my hair every single day, until my hair started showing signs of breakage.
I decided to stop straightening when I started to date boys. I could see that I was geeting more compliments from them when I was wearing my natural curly hair.
I was young so I took positive remarks as they should be taken and I am honnestly quite glad I did!
In my opinion, curly hair almost plays a social role and facilitates interactions between people. So many individuals come to speak to me and use my hair as a conversational hook.
Even though I don’t have many negative things to say in regards to my relationship with my hair, I am yet able to notice that I am not represented in the media. It’s getting better, we are more encouraged to wear our natural hair out, but there is still some work to do on this.
It’s hard work to ignore beauty standards, people’s remarks, and to focus on yourself, on what you want to look like.
The most important is to try!
Try to go out with your natural hair and the more you will do it, the more you will get used to it.
You might even end up liking it!