Love and hate are two notions which perfectly define the relationship I have with my hair.
I sometimes straighten it, but as soon as I look at my reflection in the mirror I can see that this is not me, which is a feeling I hate.
It’s always strange to see your hair going back to its natural state at the start of the journey, and it takes time to accept it, to understand how it behaves. But all we can do is to adapt, really.
Patience is a key element when it comes to your natural hair journey, as much as not paying attention to what people have to say about your hair and the way you look.
As a biracial woman, I am happy to say that both sides of my family accepted my hair as it is, never criticised it or pushed me to alter its nature. This definitely had a positive impact on my confidence, a confidence now big enough to help me ignore people who say out loud that I look like Tahiti Bob.
I don’t really feel represented in the media but that’s of no importance to me. I represent my own self and that’s more than enough.
If at some point in my life I need a role model, someone to refer to, I will go and find it myself.
I can see that things are changing, big brands are now selling hair care lines for curly and kinky types, showcase more black models, but that’s nothing but a trend!
These huge businesses started to face an increasing amount of proud black women, ready to rock their natural hair and be strong advocates of it. Women ready to find solutions elsewhere! Big businesses knew they had no other choice than to adapt.