Much love for my hair!
I love the way it moves, the way it curls, how big and versatile it can be.
I love how representative of my blackness it is.
I love my hair but I am also aware of how hard it is to reach that point. Society tries to tell us that our hair don’t deserve to be loved, don’t deserve to be shown. Kids internalise these messages and it is hard for them to grow up and ignore all of this. This is probably what led my mum to relax my hair from a very young age.
My transitioning process wasn't easy to accept for my family. I remember my mother telling me as soon as she would notice my curly roots that it was time to relax again.
My dad said the most surprising thing. He tried to explain to me that this afro hair didn't suit me, didn't go well with who I am as a person, as a light skin person...
But how does something that grows out of my head isn't for me?
Me wanting to embrace my natural hair was something that they struggled to accept.
I come from Brazil. The natural hair movement there is very singular because we are progressively encouraged to embrace our curls but only if you have a particular type of curls! The loose ones over the tighter ones. It was hard to feel part of this community at first but eventually we could see more brands for us afro haired ladies!
We still struggle with representation in Brazil though. I see myself more represented in Paris (where I live now) than in my own country, which is probably one of the most mixed country in the world!