I am better off with my hair now.
As a child, I always had short hair because my mother didn't really know how to handle it. She didn’t realise that cutting my hair was like suppressing a strong part of my identity.
I basically looked like a boy, which I hated, so to get ‘revenge’ I decided to let my hair grow very long!
This growth process got ruined as soon as my brother got lices - which led my mum to cut it all over again.
I eventually got there as you can see but with an obvious lack of love for my natural texture.
Even though I am trying to embrace it more, I am still slightly considering the idea of going for the Brazilian straightening technique, but more as a treatment than a radical straightening process.
I am still learning at the moment but what I can say to the ladies who like me struggle with their hair is to understand how curls and identity are tied.
Step by step, find ways to show more of your hair.
Instead of tying your hair straight away after a shower for instance, let it down for an hour or so, look at yourself in the mirror and accept it as being you.
Force it and you will eventually get there.